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Monday
17Nov2008

So You Wanna Play Ball

Today I was told that I would no longer be on the team that works in South America due to the fact that I am female – I asked the question “what part of female prevents me from doing my job?”

“They” could not come up with any concrete evidence that my gender equated to stupidity or incompetency so now I’m back on the team. A team no one wants me to be on – especially since I asked what requirement prevents females from going to South America.

The fact is: I just finished working in the part of the world that is the mother of all “keeping the woman” down – the Middle East. Granted, the country I was specifically in was more progressive, but in general men and women were very much segregated and not equal economically or socially. Men, legitimized women – if you can wrap your head around that.

I never saw a woman in their Armed Forces, I never saw a woman working in management or upper management. I never saw a woman cab driver. I saw women working as sales people in high end car dealerships or western style shopping mall stores. I saw women working in western hotels such as the Ritz Carlton or Four Seasons. Once I went to a concert at a school and I saw that most of the teachers were women (they put their photo up outside their classroom door).

I understand that many women in the Middle East are highly educated. Once they have their degree I don’t know if they stay in the Middle East or not - I just don't know enough about the topic to speak beyond personal experience.

I once met a Kuwaiti woman that was living in Minnesota and did a lot of work in Dubai as an architect. She spoke perfect English, Arabic, Farsi, French, Spanish and some German. She said she was more comfortable living in America—Minnesota specifically. Even though she was obviously not a Nordic looking, blonde haired person like what you might normally see in Minnesota. Not to mention she wasn’t Lutheran but Muslim. Despite this, she felt more comfortable living in Minnesota.

If you think about it, maybe she was a little crazy – how does one feel more comfortable in the Frozen Tundra when they were raised in the desert? Even people from Minnesota are not comfortable in Minnesota unless it’s June or September.

When all was said and done, I had no more or no less trouble working in the Middle East then I had working in Europe or the US. This was the first time it was just laid right down on the table, in writing: I was not welcome do to the fact I lack a penis.

What they didn’t count on was the size of my balls.

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Reader Comments (9)

Wow... I can't believe anyone would say/do such a thing as kick someone off the team just for being a woman... in the 21st century... in America (both the land of equality and unremitting lawsuits!)... in our line of work (which, despite being largely dominated by men, is institutionally quite tolerant/equal). Wow. And not in a good way.
November 18, 2008 | Unregistered CommenterDirndl
I also had to prove today I could speak enough spanish... not sure any men had to "prove" anything. Thank God for Sesame Street. Abierto / Cierre ....

Miami here I come.
November 18, 2008 | Registered CommenterLIFETRASH
Yikes - we just had a women finally become a 4 star general, we go to places in the world that the "front line" is everywhere but still can't be in "combat arms" although I tracked more "non-combat" types KIA during my time in Iraq, we had many (that's more the 100 and less then 10,000) former General sign a petition that said do away with don't ask, don't tell because a quality person is a quality person. The guy who said that to you is a dying breed - one that should go extinct. He probably doesn't want his BMW to have a job either.......
November 18, 2008 | Unregistered CommenterOS
My BMW has a great job....it drives me to work every day.
November 19, 2008 | Unregistered Commenter11K
BMW = Big Military Wife

It's a phenomenom that happens in the military--could possibly be military urban legend. You see them in the grocery store. Smokin' hot, clean cut guys with very large women that were probably smokin' hot back in high school. That and the 70 some percent divorce rate tells you how happy these ladies really are.

By the way -- saw photos from my 20 year high school reunion -- the prom queen is now very large ... she grew into her breasts (so to speak). So, I'm guessing, it's not just a military phenomenom.
November 19, 2008 | Registered CommenterLIFETRASH
I was raised in western NY (not the frozen tundra, but somewhat frozen) and now live in the desert. I can't imagine going in the other direction.

I once had one of those BMWs. Well, not of my own...
November 20, 2008 | Unregistered Commenterfich
Was the BMW a rent to own situation?

Or was it more like just a rental from an owner that didn't know it was being rented out?

OR -- was it more like you went to test drive it a few times and just didn't make the next step to purchase?
November 20, 2008 | Registered CommenterLIFETRASH
Or maybe the BMW situation was a repo ... you know ... couldn't make payments so you had to swoop in and take it away until payment could be made.
November 20, 2008 | Registered CommenterLIFETRASH
wow this crazy bmw sidebar is the kind of awthumness that keeps me coming to your page. eventho u prolly dont know who i am. thats ok... ill ALWAYS loves u. wait thats not true. if ever for some insane reason give this site up i will dump your ex-ice skater's ass. Then you and your BIG balls will be reduced to vacational drinking buddies.
December 9, 2008 | Unregistered CommenterSilva

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