I know I've published the long list of "traits"... but as anyone who has been in love knows -- you sometimes fall in love with someone you never thought you would.
By request (the OS), I will now publish the job description that I wrote sometime ago that attempts to define the perfect partner:
Job Description for the position of “Boyfriend de la Cleveland”
Person must be male. He must show up to job interview well groomed: which includes clean nails, clothing, showered, and coiffed (he has got to smell good). Person must be physically unrepulsive.
JOB DESCRIPTION
Treating me with respect and eventually – if job is accepted, treating me as someone who is important to him. This includes but is not limited to talking/texting every day, being chivalrous, being romantic (sweet talk, compliments, planning outings, flowers, surprises).
When disagreements occur it is required that it be discussed to resolution – no matter how long the required discussion – rather than not communicating or disappearing.
Loyalty. Loyalty in every sense of the word.
Being a passionate, understanding, and giving lover who is also receptive. To respect and listen to wants and needs – someone who is considerate and not demanding. Benefit will be reciprocle.
Must be proficient at kissing. Must continue to be a good kisser. Someone who loves to kiss and knows how to give all kinds of kisses: small, large, passionate, butterfly, Eskimo, ear, eyes, the Hollywood, and perhaps some I don’t even know about.
Forgiving mistakes I may make. Giving me grace if I do something you may interpret as negative. Benefit will be reciprocle.
He must feel comfortable sharing personal information and expectations on a regular basis.
He must be continually trying to improve himself and his environment – have something he is passionately working towards. At least one topic he could talk for hours about.
He must be financially mature and responsible.
He must live his life with personal integrity, including but not limited to doing what he says he will, calling when he promises, doing what’s right and not necessarily what’s easy.
He must have the courage to bring up difficult topics and engage maturely when I do (try to do) the same.
He must take care of himself so he is healthy and can participate in active pursuits.
He must laugh at my attempts to be funny, and be able to laugh at himself.
He must be willing to include me in his life, his friends, and not be worried to introduce me to people whom are important to him and his life.
He must socialize willing / happily in groups with friends (mine and his – this includes my sisters).
He must occasionally plan outings like dancing, movies, dinners out, theater, parties, orchestra and other activities that may require some thought and arranging on his part.
He must know what he wants out of life.
He must be a fundamentally kind person. He must not be dull. And he must be a little unpredictable.
And most importantly … he must be fun, and easy going. Can not be too concerned about marriage or children … but must be willing to have those discussions at an appropriate time – which may never happen. Until then … live, love, travel, eat, drink and dance.
BONUS POINTS
Foreign language skills
Well read
Well traveled
Well Educated
Tuesday, July 14, 2009 at 10:46 